Building a Childs Self Esteem

Once we learn these cues we need to actively build their confidence and self-esteem.

We often forget that children, like us, can feel down about themselves or simply not have positive self-esteem. Children often cannot express through words how they are feeling, thus it is up to us as adults to read other signals and cues to determine how they are feeling about themselves. Once we learn these cues we need to actively build their confidence and self-esteem. 1. The first and most important thing we can do is believe in our children. This often is the most powerful tool in helping them. Believe that your children can and will have the capacity to learn anything and everything you teach them. Here are some hints: • Repetitive, positive reinforcement of desired behaviors is necessary. • Help your child understand his/her strengths and weaknesses by giving them direct feedback. • When they have done something well tell them they have. Cheer them on when they are attempting something that is more challenging. Help recognize and control their anger/temper. • Younger children will benefit form adults labeling their emotions (example: “I see that you are angry because…”). • Encourage you little ones to express themselves verbally when they are upset. This really helps children feel heard and in control and may even reduce inappropriate behaviors. 2. Show interest in your child’s activities and interests — no matter how much you may not like it or enjoy it. Even simply being near by your child when they are performing tasks will help. 3. Building a positive self-image. Notice the wonderful little things about the children around you and let them know about it. (example: “I love your shirt”, or “you have a great smile’). Helping children see the value in themselves—this can only happen if you show them how valued they are. 4. Catch your children being good. Label the behaviors that please you and let them know about it. There are countless ways of complimenting and reinforcing the positive behaviors you would like to see increase (example: ” I love it when you listen to me the first time”). This can also be done by simply showing affection. A simple high five or a pat in the back will go a long way. 5. Explain situations or events to the little people in your life. Know that it is ok to explain certain situations to them that are at their level of understanding. Often as adults we do not realize how easily children can begin to react appropriately to situations and events that may be frustrating or stressful if they understand what’s going on. Positive self-esteem is one of the most important traits any person, young or old, can possess. And as our ever-changing world places more demands on our little ones they need it now more than ever. Just remember, building self-esteem is an on-going process, so be patient and you will be rewarded by seeing the JOY of your little one feeling good about him or herself. Author Name : Gopi K. Patel (MSE.d Special Educator) Address: eBeanstalk 50 Water Street Norwalk, CT 06854 Phone: 203-854-9600 fax number: 203 854 5590 URL: http://www.ebeanstalk.com Email: customerservice@ebeanstalk.com